Monthly Archives: January 2012

Defining Success: Part 3

I recently had the privilege of sharing several different definitions of success from people I look up to {read here and here}. Defining success is easier said than done though. I’ve learned that actually pinpointing what success ACTUALLY looks like to me is quite difficult. How I view success has changed drastically in the past year. Previously, I never really took much time to think about success – but viewed it in terms of accomplishments: getting XYZ job, doing XYZ, accomplishing XYZ. The weird part was this – during college, I thought that graduating college with a degree I wanted was successful, I thought getting a job was successful, I thought dating someone “just perfect” was successful. While these three things are certainly not bad, I’ve learned they don’t equate to success in my book anymore.

My views have completely shifted and I no longer think landing a dream job or having the perfect relationship equates to success. I’ve come to a point where I’ve seen people who “have everything” and are “successful” by the world’s standards; and then realize some of them are completely miserable. I’m done defining success based on items/experiences I check off a to-do list and instead view success based on who I am and who I strive to be day-to-day. Here are six factors that determine personal success for me – they are actually more of “life goals” the more I think about it:

1. To help other people discover and maximize their potential
2. To radiate unconditional love – to everyone, every day.
3. To live out God-given joy
4. To live with authentic integrity
5. To be surrounded (mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually) by people who encourage and challenge me
6. To be the best person I can be right where I’m at now.

It’s super easy to get caught up in the measuring my personal success by someone else’s standards and that is not right! When this happens, I need to remind myself what success looks like to me. What success looks like to me may be very different than what success looks like to my friends, family, strangers, coworkers, anyone. And that is perfectly okay.

A little tip: it’s much easier to remember what success looks like to you by not only writing it down – but putting it somewhere you see every day!

Happy Tuesday, thanks for reading! I’d love to hear how YOU define success! Leave me a comment or tweet me (@luckyandi)!

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January Snapshots

January has been a whirlwind and wonderful month! From my birthday festivities and parents 25th anniversary to weekly brunch dates and city exploring, it’s been busy yet relaxing in the perfect way. Here’s a few snapshots from the past four weeks. Enjoy your Monday, xx!

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Happy Sunday!

(p)inspired, part 2

{Empowerment}

{EXCESSories}

I’ve expressed my slight addiction to Pinterest before, so it shouldn’t be any surprise that I’m sharing again. This post shares screenshots of my Empowerment, EXCESSories, Glitter, Crowns & I Live Here boards. I love that Pinterest allows me to search for, save and share my favorite images and things. Such a fun concept – visit all my boards here and enjoy your lovely weekend! I have a pile of February fashion magazines calling my name! xx

{Glitter}

{Crowns}

{I Live Here}

Thursday Thankful List

As I write this, I’m feeling sad, discouraged and a bit of grief. I think it’s very important to own up to their types of feelings, instead of pretending they aren’t real. As someone who is naturally cheerful, optimistic and bubbly, I absolutely hate feeling this way but I am not going to avoid the emotions. The most important thing to remember whenever we are down, sad, upset, disheartened or “off” is this: unfair, terrible and troubling things happen to all of us. We have two options: we can let these situations rule our lives or we can view them as a small bump.

I choose the latter. Even though I’m feeling on the verge of tears, I want to share 26 things I’m thankful for today {it’s the 26th day of January, can you believe it?!}. These small but mighty things I’m sharing are what’s getting me through the rough and sad days; things I can always depend on to brighten my mood and bring a small skip back into my step. Also, I found out some scary news this week and I ask for your very positive thoughts and prayers for someone I love very much. Thank you {always} for being so supportive, loving and lovely! xx

1. Hot {or iced} coffee in the morning/mid-afternoon
2. Hot tea before bed
3. Being able to call my mom whenever I want
4. Warm days in January
5. The opportunity to have two best friends live in the same city as I do
6. Feelings – both good and bad
7. The sound of a song that brings back a happy memory
8. That God is close to the brokenhearted
9. Emails that end in “Thank you!”
10. First lighting a candle – and then the smell and flickering light after
11. Not being in high school anymore
12. How supportive certain people are that I have yet to even meet in person
13. Feeling safe and warm when it’s storming outside
14. Homemade brunch {this weekend will be Sunday #3!}
15. Getting caught in a really good book
16. Red lipstick
17. Refusing to compare myself with others
18. Talking to exciting people who are doing very cool things with their life
19. Planning flights home and family visits to San Francisco
20. Crossing things off my to-do list
21. Remembering what and who really matters
22. Feeling sore after a good trip to the gym
23. Inner peace
24. Looking back and seeing how far I’ve come
25. Wintermint gum
26. Believing and knowing that things are going to be okay

Life isn't meant to be comfortable

Inspirational Quote

I’ve been thinking about something lately. Maybe it’s because my ten month anniversary in San Francisco is quickly approaching, maybe it’s because of a networking event I attended Tuesday evening, maybe it’s because I’ve been replaying a few moments from my past. There’s one common theme here: Life isn’t meant to be comfortable.

Hear me out on this one: the moments that provide us the most opportunity are the ones that are the scariest. Living a ‘safe’ and ‘convenient’ life isn’t helping us at all. Take moving across the country right out of college for example. Had I ever been west of Missouri? No. Did I know anyone in California? No. Had I ever had a “real job” before? No. Did that stop me? No.

But this blog post isn’t about me; it’s about YOU. Stop and think about experiences – big and small – that have pushed you outside of your comfort zone. Maybe it’s speaking publicly at a large event. Maybe it’s quitting your job or choosing to end a relationship. Maybe it’s finally acknowledging you are not happy in a situation you’re in and taking a leap of faith to change your circumstances. All of these things may bring a lot of fear, but they also bring a whole lot of opportunity.

I am a huge advocate for the fact that life isn’t meant to be comfortable because being comfortable is safe. And safe is boring. Today, take a chance and make the proactive decision to choose to be brave. I promise you this courage is always rewarded.


 

Thursday Thankful List…on a Tuesday.

Hey girl hey {and boys, definitely not discriminating around here}! I’m switching it up on my blog today and posting my Thursday Thankful List today…on Tuesday! Sometimes I feel like I get trapped into being extra thankful on Thursdays. It’s my favorite day of the week, I always post Thankful Lists on Thursdays, it’s almost the weekend. Thankfulness does not stay top-of-mind on Tuesdays, which is something that I don’t love. Something I need to actively and daily remind myself is that every day should be just as thankful as Thursday. Every day I have the opportunity to count my blessings, celebrate the big and small and be very thankful and appreciative for what is around me. Hope you do the same xo!

Catching up with friends far away
Meeting new friends for dinner
Cozy cardigans
Day drinks
That my dad just bought his own cell phone.
Agendas
New music jams
But…replaying the same song over and over
Sitting next to Sarah
Exploring new neighborhoods
Wine bars
Brunch plans! {Making these cake batter pancakes this weekend}

Going to church
New books to read
Design inspiration a la this inside look at Jenna Lyons’ home
Delighting in the details
Staying in on a Friday night
Inside jokes
These adorable cards I just purchased!
Red lipstick {and lip gloss and chap stick…}
Effective brainstorms
Fabulous ideas
These words from Seth Godin
Appreciating the simplicity and elegance of life!


Decaf hazelnut coffee
Comfy, cozy reading nooks
Answered prayers
Falling asleep immediately
Finishing a really good book
Good Mondays
Outgoing people
The Black Keys
20 Tips for Influencing People at Work {and life!}
This promise from Jeremiah 29:11: “…I know the plans I have for you…plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you a hope and a future.”
Scarves
Reading up on SF Girl by Bay‘s blog
Girlfriends {and adorable hair pieces of course}

Pink nail polish
Stretching my back
Post-it Notes
Walks around the block during work
Feeling appreciated
Christmas lights {especially when it’s not the holiday season}
Drinking lots of water throughout the day
Kris Carr’s Love List
Remembering there is MORE to life than your job
Helpful, reassuring and kind doctors
These ASOS LOVEHEART Ballerina Flats

Diner brunch dates
Roommates
Washing my hands
Moments that remind me to stay humble
Hugs. Big hugs.
Newborn babies
Being from Ohio
The Food Network
When you call someone on the phone and they are super excited to hear your voice
Catch-up phone calls with Kellie
Surprises
How a cup of coffee makes things/situations/life much better.