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Kindness is my religion

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Happy Wednesday!

Why is kindness something that is so easy, but we often forget so easily? Literally, being kind means saying hi to the person next to you in line at Starbucks, it means randomly saying thank you, it means sending a quick email to someone who looks down, it means telling someone you like their outfit that day, it means giving up your seat on the bus to someone older than you, it means offering to carry someone’s groceries out of the store. Need more ideas? This article gives 35! Or check out what the lovely Ashley’s awesome new Pass It Forward project!

Every thing I just listed takes less than five minutes. More like five seconds! Being kind is something that doesn’t involve spending money or even a lot of time. It means being conscious of little moments where you can truly make an impact on someone and make their day a little better and brighter. I’m echoing Ralph Waldo Emerson’s sentiments today: Life is short but there is always time for courtesy. 

May today be the day you surprise someone by radiating kindness! Thanks for reading today’s Words for Wednesday – hope you’re having a great week! xx
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25 Rules for Mothers of Daughters

I found Sarah’s wonderful post titled 25 Rules for Mothers of Daughters on her blog and absolutely needed to share. My mom is my biggest advocate, #1 cheerleader and someone I look up to. I’m beyond thankful for our relationship and the way she raised me {although I doubt I would tell her that five or six years ago!} She truly lived out each of these rules. I highly recommend this post to anyone who is a mom or daughter. It’s a tearjerker! 

Don’t forget to read the 25 Rules for Dads of Daughters post too! xo

1. Paint her nails. Then let her scratch it off and dirty them up. Teach her to care about her appearance, and then quickly remind her that living and having fun is most important

2. Let her put on your makeup, even if it means bright-red-smudged lips and streaked-blue eyes. Let her experiment in her attempts to be like you…then let her be herself.

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3. Let her be wild. She may want to stay home and read books on the couch, or she may want to hop on the back of a motorcycle-gasp. She may be a homebody or a traveler. She may fall in love with the wrong boy, or meet Mr. Right at age 5. Try to remember that you were her age once. Everyone makes mistakes, let her make her own.
4. Be present. Be there for her at her Kindergarten performances, her dance recitals, her soccer games…her everyday-little-moments. When she looks through the crowds of people, she will be looking for your smile and pride. Show it to her as often as possible.

5. Encourage her to try on your shoes and play dress-up. If she would rather wear her brother’s superman cape with high heals, allow it. If she wants to wear a tutu or dinosaur costume to the grocery store, why stop her? She needs to decide who she is and be confident in her decision.

6. Teach her to be independent. Show her by example that woman can be strong. Find and follow your own passions. Search for outlets of expression and enjoyment for yourself- not just your husband or children. Define yourself by your own attributes, not by what others expect you to be. Know who you are as a person, and help your daughter find out who she is.

7. Pick flowers with her. Put them in her hair. There is nothing more beautiful than a girl and a flower.

8. Let her get messy. Get messy with her, no matter how much it makes you cringe inside. Splash in the puddles, throw snowballs, make mud pies, finger paint the walls: just let it happen. The most wonderful of memories are often the messy ones.

9. Give her good role models- you being one of them. Introduce her to successful woman- friends, co-workers, doctors, astronauts, or authors. Read to her about influential woman- Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, Marie Curie. Read her the words of inspirational woman- Jane Austen, Sylvia Plath, Emily Dickinson. She should know that anything is possible.

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10. Show her affection. Daughters will mimic the compassion of their mother. “I love yous” and Eskimo kisses go a long way.

11. Hold her hand. Whether she is 3 years-old in the parking lot or sixteen years old in the mall, hold on to her always- this will teach her to be confident in herself and proud of her family.

12. Believe in her. It is the moments that she does not believe in herself that she will need you to believe enough for both of you. Whether it is a spelling test in the first grade, a big game or recital, a first date, or the first day of college…remind her of the independent and capable woman you have taught her to be.

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13. Tell her how beautiful she is. Whether it is her first day of Kindergarten, immediately after a soccer game where she is grass-stained and sweaty, or her wedding day. She needs your reminders. She needs your pride. She needs your reassurance. She is only human.

14. Love her father. Teach her to love a good man, like him. One who lets her be herself…she is after all wonderful.

15. Make forts with boxes and blankets. Help her to find magic in the ordinary, to imagine, to create and to believe in fairy tales. Someday she will make her 5 by 5 dorm-room her home with magic touches and inspiration. And she will fall in love with a boy and believe him to be Prince Charming.

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16. Read to her. Read her Dr. Seuss and Eric Carle. But also remember the power of Sylvia Plath and Robert Frost. Show her the beauty of words on a page and let her see you enjoy them. Words can be simply written and simply spoken, yet can harvest so much meaning. Help her to find their meaning.

17. Teach her how to love- with passion and kisses. Love her passionately. Love her father passionately and her siblings passionately. Express your love. Show her how to love with no restraint. Let her get her heart broken and try again. Let her cry, and gush, giggle and scream. She will love like you love or hate like you hate. So, choose love for both you and her.

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18. Encourage her to dance and sing. Dance and sing with her- even if it sounds or looks horrible. Let her wiggle to nursery rhymes. Let her dance on her daddy’s feet and spin in your arms. Then later, let her blast noise and headbang in her bedroom with her door shut if she wants. Or karaoke to Tom Petty in the living room if she would rather. Introduce her to the classics- like The Beatles- and listen to her latest favorite- like Taylor Swift. Share the magic of music together, it will bring you closer- or at least create a soundtrack to your life together.

 

19. Share secrets together. Communicate. Talk. Talk about anything. Let her tell you about boys, friends, school. Listen. Ask questions. Share dreams, hopes, concerns. She is not only your daughter, you are not only her mother. Be her friend too.

20. Teach her manners. Because sometimes you have to be her mother, not just her friend. The world is a happier place when made up of polite words and smiles.

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21. Teach her when to stand-up and when to walk away. Whether she has classmates who tease her because of her glasses, or a boyfriend who tells her she is too fat- let her know she does not have to listen. Make sure she knows how to demand respect- she is worthy of it. It does not mean she has to fight back with fists or words, because sometimes you say more with silence. Also make sure she knows which battles are worth fighting. Remind her that some people can be mean and nasty because of jealousy, or other personal reasons. Help her to understand when to shut her mouth and walk-away. Teach her to be the bigger -the better- person.

22. Let her choose who she loves. Even when you see through the charming boy she thinks he is, let her love him without your disapproving words: she will anyway. When he breaks her heart, be there for her with words of support rather than I told-you-so. Let her mess up again and again until she finds the one. And when she finds the one, tell her.

23. Mother her. Being a mother—to her—is undoubtedly one of your greatest accomplishments. Share with her the joys of motherhood, so one day she will want to be a mother too. Remind her over and over again with words and kisses that no one will ever love her like you love her. No one can replace or replicate a mother’s love for their children.

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24. Comfort her. Because sometimes you just need your mommy. When she is sick, rub her back, make her soup and cover her in blankets- no matter how old she is. Someday, if she is giving birth to her own child, push her hair out of her face, encourage her, and tell her how beautiful she is. These are the moments she will remember you for. And someday when her husband rubs her back in attempt to comfort her…she may just whisper, “I need my mommy.”

25. Be home. When she is sick with a cold or broken heart, she will come to you: welcome her. When she is engaged or pregnant, she will run to you to share her news: embrace her. When she is lost or confused, she will search for you: find her. When she needs advice on boys, schools, friends or an outfit: tell her. She is your daughter and will always need a safe harbor- where she can turn a key to see comforting eyes and a familiar smile: be home.

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Let nothing enslave you.

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Dear Gutsy Girl,

One of the hardest and most important missions that we must put on our “missions to conquer” to-do list is to absolutely, positively, thoroughly and mercifully forgive ourselves.

This is not a once in a lifetime mission…this is an every day mission. We must allow ourselves the grace we need to move forward fearlessly into the lives we want to live. We must forgive ourselves for the mistakes, regrets and lacks that we have been allowing to block us from everything we truly yearn for.

Of course, we must always always always do our best each day, always  choose the best we know to choose, always seek out truth and light…but we must expect that at times we will fall, at times we will make giant mistakes. There will be things that we will not be proud of. When this happens, we must get back up and keep ging. We must forive ourselves.

Let nothing enslave you, especially your own incredible self, beautiful friend.

You are so very loved, so very important.

{via Brave Girls Club}

dose of joy {by ellen}

meet the wonderful Ellen! Here’s ten things that provide her a dose of daily joy:

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  1. Hearing a song that triggers nostalgia – this one in particular always takes me back: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PuXoDVPDpz0
  2. Crossing off items on my to-do list
  3. The perfect latte
  4. Ending yoga class with a powerful statement … one of my favorites – “Let no one steal your peace”
  5. Laughing
  6. Picking up right where I left off with old friends
  7. An afternoon when the sun shining, the car windows are down, and the music is blasting
  8. Sharing a great bottle of wine among friends
  9. Handwritten notes
  10. An extra cheesy slice of pizza

 What fill you with joy? Read more from Anna and Catherine here, or email me your “Dose of Joy” list at andreateggart[at]gmail.com

Friday Five

TGIF! Below you’ll find five previous blog posts that talk all about positivity and happiness. Rereading them was definitely a much-needed refresher as I kick-off the weekend. Hope you enjoy as much as I do! xx

For more fun Friday Five posts, click here!

1. 11 Facts About Positivity

Positive people live longer, positive work environments outperform negative work environments, Positive people who regularly express positive emotions are more resilient when facing stress, challenges and adversity + read more here

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2. Choose Happiness, Here, Now.

Self-acceptance starts with changing your definition of happiness. Happiness is a sense of peace and serenity that lives within you, despite what is going on outside of you.+ read more here

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3. An Invincible Spring

What does this mean to me? It reminds me that I might feel like I’m in a terrible, long, cold, dark season of life (or just a given day) but it’s vital to find that “invincible spring” despite the situation. The absolute worst days make me appreciate the great ones.+ read more here

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4. 21 Habits of Happy People

Appreciate life, choose friends wisely, do what they love, enjoy life, invest in relationships, love unconditionally, be proactive + read more here

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5. 8 Tips for a Positive Mental Attitude

Appreciate life, choose friends wisely, do what they love, enjoy life, invest in relationships, love unconditionally, be proactive + read more here

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Thursday Thankful List

Today, I am seeing life with eyes wide open by remaining thankful at ALL times. I’ve noticed a lot of people refuse to believe they deserve happiness and therefore, deserve to feel thankful at all times. I’ve noticed people who are selective about when to experience and showcase gratitude. What I also have noticed is that the only way to truly be able to notice all there is to be thankful for is by living life with eyes wide open. Actively rather than passively. Cheerfully rather than sullenly.

Trust me, I get it, I get it, I get it. There are always things that somehow bring us down, bother us, occupy our attention span and thought process. Today, I encourage you to combat every feeling of annoyance, sadness, overwhelming, depression by saying thank you. For anything, for everything. Seriously….try it.

There can {and should be} thankfulness in the here and now! Below you’ll find this week’s Thursday Thankful List as well as some lovely thankful lists from Twitter girlfriends. xx

  • best friends in the world, my new job, peanut butter, soft blankets & my TOMS that are no longer MIA! (@alexavenoy)
  • r&b, pilates, apples and little sisters (@ambelinaaa)

The library
The moment I get in bed at night
Lusting over shoes online with Christine
Pausing to count my blessings
Visiting my old teachers from high school and elementary school
Old man walking down the street with a bouquet a flowers
Whistling
Hilarious {honestly, the funniest!} texts from my sisters
Staying present in the moment
Hearing people play the piano
How quickly little kids grow up
People who are kind
Visiting Rayne
Mornings with coffee in my hand
Holding on to hope
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Much-needed catch-up sessions
Flavored coffee creamer
When different shades of blue in the sky hit each other
Families on vacation
Honey Wheat pretzels from Trader Joes
Waking up early
Staying up late
Grandparents
Replaying the song “How Beautiful” {reminds me of my cousin Erin!}
Impromptu and random lunches outside during work
People who carry themselves in queen-y fashion
Granny smith apples
How wearing flowers automatically puts me in a happier mood:
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The opportunity to talk to young girls about body image
That I’m not in high school anymore
Taking photos in a photo booth
Regaining perspective
Planning a trip
Brand new-ness
Thinking about one year ago today
Memories
Remembering the wonderful little things that happen over the little annoying things in our day-to-day life
Paint swatches
Blooming green plant on my dresser
Rereading this post
Peace that passes all understanding
Being okay with change
Floating
Reminding myself what really, really matters
Bright colored tights
Finding an item at the store you just MUST purchase
That this is what my weekends are turning into:
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The way music makes me feel
Hitting the “REFRESH” Button on life
“You are loved, you are worthy, you are beautiful.”
Productive days
When a cut, burn or scrape heals
Forgiveness
Reunions
Fun and happy news!
Crawling into bed at 8 pm with my journal + a hot cup of tea
Fur jackets {yes, bought another one!}
Bookmarks
Remembering the glass is always half full:

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Happy Wednesday! What I’ve been thinking about lately is my definition of myself. While this definition is a work in progress, I define myself as a glass-half full kinda girl, a dreamer, a listener, a leader, a sister, a daughter, a friend, a lover of life. How do you define yourself?

What’s very important to remember is that we aren’t limited to these small definitions of self. I wanted to share a few cute images and inspiration words in today’s Words for Wednesday sharing the text “You are ___.” Read them, and then reread them! As I skim this post over, I can’t help but smile thinking about how powerful it is to connect with words telling me who I am and what I’m doing. Pretttty cool, queens.

I might not know you in person, but want to tell you a few things I definitely know about you today: you are dazzling, you are grounded, you are extraordinary, you are great, you are loved, you are capable, you are inspired, you are worthy, you are blessed, you are youthful, you are sweet, you are complete, you are lovely, you are you.

Thanks for reading! xo

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