Monthly Archives: March 2014

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immunity boosting march bestowed box

as always, i was excited to receive my bright orange box of bestowed goodness this month! it’s a fun surprise to see what healthy snacks and products are packed into the box and to discover new-to-me brands. bestowed also recently launched their marketplace, where you can shop previous boxes or just purchase individual products.

the march box was filled with products that help beat the cold and boost your immunity system. here’s what was inside:

Coromega Omega3 Squeeze Orange 7 Day Pack: omega-3 supplement with no fishy aftertaste! read: actually taste yummy! omega-3 is good for just about every part of your body, from your joints to skin to brain to heart.

HelloFresh Gift Card: this company delivers pre-measured, farm-fresh ingredients and recipe cards to your door. stay tuned for a review blog post!

Justin’s Honey Peanut Butter Squeeze Pack: justin’s is my go-to for actually good-for-you peanut and almond butters. perfect with pretzels and apples!

Nothin’ But Lemon Ginger Cashew Snack Bar: i’m always on the hunt for awesome granola bars. this one beats my expectations and is packed with sunflower seeds, cashews and cranberries with 4 grams of protein.

Reed’s Ginger Chews: gluten-free and made with real ginger root, these are the perfect snack to keep in your drawer at work for a sweet treat.

Stash Tea Organic Lemon Ginger Tea: i looooove drinking tea {morning, afternoon, before bed} and this green tea is super tasty and packed with antioxidants.

Vigilant Eats Superfood Cereal: convenient, gluten-free, vegan, non-GMO and organic meal in a cup. all you have to do is add COLD water, plus it comes with a spoon so this is truly a perfect to-go meal. it comes in four varieties: goji cacao, coconut maple vanilla, expresso macs mulberry and macs double chocolate. yum!

i can’t wait to see what’s in the april bestowed box! order your own box for $19/month here and read previous bestowed box reviews here. xo!

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life lessons, part 3

  1. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
  2. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
  3. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
  4. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
  5. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
  6. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
  7. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
  8. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
  9. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
  10. The best is yet to come.
  11. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
  12. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
  13. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
  14. Yield.
  15. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

Image via here. This is part 3 of 3 life lessons authored by Regina Brett {originally posted hereI’ll be sharing this week! 

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let's talk instagram!

i’m excited to share that i’ll be speaking at the wix lounge in san francisco on wednesday, march 26. wix is a platform that allows people to create their own website. they asked me to share about instagram best practices and how i use instagram to support my blog. if you’re in sf, swing by!

who: wix, eric oldrin on the creative team at instagram and myself
what: “bring your business to life with instagram” presentation
when: wednesday, march 26 at 6:30pm – 8:30pm
where:
TechShop SF: Gallery Space (901 Howard Street, SF)
rsvp:
here!

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life lessons, part 2

  1. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
  2. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
  3. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
  4. Burn the candles; use the nice sheets; wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
  5. Overprepare, then go with the flow.
  6. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
  7. The most important sex organ is the brain.
  8. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
  9. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”
  10. Forgive everyone everything.
  11. What other people think of you is none of your business.
  12. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
  13. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
  14. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
  15. Believe in miracles.

Image found here. This is part 2 of 3 life lessons authored by Regina Brett {originally posted hereI’ll be sharing this week! 

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life lessons, part 1

  1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
  2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
  3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
  4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
  6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
  7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
  8. Save for retirement, starting with your first paycheck.
  9. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
  10. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present
  11. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
  12. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  13. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
  14. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
  15. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

Image found here. This is part 1 of 3 life lessons authored by Regina Brett {originally posted hereI’ll be sharing this week! 

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a quick update

hello friends!
i hope you’re having a great week so far! i wanted to give you a quick life/blog update. when i started polish my crown over three years ago, i never imagined it would be a place where i would continue to share well into my mid-twenties. it’s been such a blessing for me to have this little place on the internet and to write and learn and grow. the purpose of the blog is to encourage people to live their best lives possible, to view themselves as queens. this, of course, never means to be bratty and stuck-up, but instead, clothed with strength and dignity, that flows from the inside out. i hope this blog is one you bookmark for the days you are looking for an added boost of inspiration and encouragement, a place where you are reminded that yes, you are enough and yes, everything will be okay.

that being said, real life, in-person me, the life-outside-of-blogging me, hasn’t been able to catch up. i wish i could tell you i have blog posts written and scheduled and tons of awesome new content to share, but i don’t. i’ve been traveling since early march and on another trip this week. my little sister gets in town on friday {!!!} for a week. i just haven’t had a chance to sit down and write and don’t forsee having a ton of time to write in the next week or so. rather than scramble to put something together, i’m accepting that it’s okay to take a little bit of a mini blog vacation during the next couple of days. it’s always been important for me-in-real-life to not sacrifice unhealthily for me-in-the-blog-world. this blog, one of my happy places, always has been important to me, but not at the sake of my personal wellbeing and my friends and family. i promise i’ll be back soon sharing more and more with you, but for the next few days, i’ll be off the blog.

until i’m back after this short hiatus, here’s a few old posts and series that i recommend reading if you’re looking for some love. you can also follow my adventures on instagram here!

inspiring women to read about and learn from – you will love each and every one of them!

how to do adulthood well

habits of happy people

there is enough time

thursday thankful list – if you’re looking for lots of reasons to appreciate right now.

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on people pleasing

All of my life I’ve only ever been able to feel truly happy when all who surround me are happy as well. I am a bonafide people-pleaser. Some may even go as far as to just call it like it is: codependency. For those who aren’t familiar with the term, codependency is defined by Darlene Lancer, MFT, as, “underdeveloped self-esteem (dysfunctional boundaries) combined with an inappropriate caring for others (invading a boundary), and an inappropriate reliance on another’s response (having poor boundaries), in a negatively reinforcing loop.”

People-pleasers put everyone else’s needs before their own. Now, when displayed in a healthy way selflessness is an amazing trait! Yet, for codependents it is less about selflessness and more about an unhealthy need to make sure all of those around us are taken care of and satisfied. Underneath everything is fear of rejection and a yearning for outside validation. It’s about wanting constant approval from others and the overwhelming desire to be wanted and needed.

If you are reading and wondering if this describes you, here are a few warning signs to be looking for in your own life:

Self-neglect. As the tendency to people-please works its way back into our lives, one trademark sign is the tendency to neglect ourselves in order to care for others. By that I mean, We lose track of our own needs, own dreams, own happiness. We lose sight of the things that matter most to us, and set them aside to make sure everyone else is happy.

The need to say “yes” every time. This one stems from the need for constant validation. People-pleasers fear that if they say no they will be looked upon less favorably. We love feeling capable and needed, so we say yes to one more thing, one more favor. We overcommit, give away too much of our time and, to be honest, are often in serious risk of being manipulated and walked over by the stronger personalities among us.

Excessive stress about the well-being of others. Empathy is truly a beautiful thing, but there is a fine line between empathy and codependency, and the people-pleaser walks that line constantly. Of course, we want our friends and family to be happy. Of course, our hearts are saddened when they are going through a hard time. Of course, we want to love them well and help them get better. However, empathy and concern become unhealthy when we move from genuine love and care to finding ourselves overstressed and overanxious about the needs of others.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a loving, selfless and helpful friend or family member. But, for those of us who struggle with codependency we need to realize that we simply cannot control the happiness of those around us. We can, however, make the choice to be happy within ourselves. We can set boundaries, learn to say no and be attentive to our own needs and desires. When we are taking care of ourselves like this we have so much more energy and love to pour out to others in a healthy way.

Because, at the end of the day, isn’t that every (recovering) people-pleaser’s dream?

article found and shared via Darling Magazine